The 7 Reasons Your New Year’s Resolution Will Fail

This post about The 7 Reasons Your New Year’s Resolution Will Fail is my attempt to keep you on track for your resolution. We’d all like to be immune to these situations, but you’ll probably recognize yourself in one (I bet it’s reason 7!) Pay close attention to the steps you can take to counteract each pitfall so you can see your goal through to the end!

Resolutionthe act of resolving or determining upon an action, course of action, method, procedure, etc.

Let’s be real: the start of the new year is probably the most efficient, balanced, and well-rounded you are all year. You’re digging up Pinterest recipes, taking bubble baths, doing yoga, meditating, cleaning your house more than it has been in the past year, and whatever other little task or habit or lifestyle shift you have gnawing on the back of your brain.

This is an opportunity to leave your mistakes, regrets, and pain behind you with a clean slate. It’s the new beginning you get to count on every 12 months to hit refresh on any aspect of your life – or try to.

New Year is my favorite time of year because it’s prime goal setting season. I love setting myself up with something to work for, but I’m no stranger to failed resolutions and unmet goals. I mean, bombing your resolution at some point or another is part of the human experience. Past failures can dissuade you from setting goals, but, like, I think doing so is one of the best things you do for yourself.

Setting a goal says you want to improve yourself, you don’t want to settle, you want to keep reaching for more. I believe you should always have a goals and be aiming to achieve something – New Year or not.

Your resolution doesn’t have to be a bomb this year. You can keep doing warrior two and meditating to the sound of rain well into December. I’m going to tell you the reasons your New Year’s resolution will fail so you can do something about it.

The 7 Reasons Your New Year’s Resolution Will Fail

1. You Have No Plan

If you have no plan, you’re doomed to fail. You need to know the steps and proper strategy to achieve what you want. You can’t lose weight if you don’t make changes to your weekly grocery trip, go back to school if you don’t register at the community college, save up for a trip to Europe if you don’t analyze your budget and make a savings plan, etc.

A big goal is accomplished with small tasks that add up. If you want to celebrate your accomplishment come December, you have to get to work now. Goals forever and always have been about the journey and not the destination. The steps you take now become your achievement, so design your route.

What You Can Do About It

  • Spend half an hour doing some research on your goal
  • Take down notes of what you need to do next (a written plan is better than one bouncing around in your head)
  • Make a timetable of when and how you’ll accomplish each step

2. You Have No Support System

January is the easiest time to stick with your goal, but February, March, and April are when you’ll feel the true burden of ambition. Your goal becomes difficult and inconvenient. You have to go out of your way to accomplish it. It’s easier to hit the drive-thru, watch TV, not take the next step.

This is when you absolutely need a support system. They’re there for you to complain, unload doubts, and engage with about your goal. They’ll hear you out and uplift you when you’re feeling like your want to quit. A good friend or partner will remind you why you want you want to achieve this and lend a hand to support you. You can’t be uplifted and comforted if you have no support system.

What You Can Do About It

  • ask a friend or significant other to do goal related activities with you
  • ask them to check up on you and hold you accountable
  • join a Facebook group related to your goal
  • find a local meetup related to your goal

3. You’re Too Insecure

Believe in yourself, damn it! Right now you’re all hyped about this awesome goal you’ve set, but doubt, fear, and apathy are going to set in real quick. You’ll fear you’re being too ambitious, your goal is too big, why should you even try? Who are you to accomplish something?

Listen here, sweet cheeks, no one cares about your goals more than you. You’re going to be surrounded by people that don’t think you’ll follow through already, so you don’t need to validate them by agreeingProve to them and yourself you can make this happen!

See the point above. You need to surround yourself with people who believe in you and support you. Notice if people around you enable your insecurities. If they do, get new friends.

What You Can Do About It

  • Figure out if you can’t succeed or you’re scared to
  • Talk through your feelings with your support system
  • Cut out negative self talk and language when discussing your goals
  • Pin point the root of your insecurities and confront them

4. Your Goal is Unrealistic

This is a hard truth: there’s a difference between being ambitious and setting yourself up for failure. You can’t (and shouldn’t) lose 30 pounds in a month or run a marathon with only a month of training. I’m being hyperbolic, but you get the point.

You should always use your goals to grow and expand the limitations of your life, but you’re doing the opposite when you set an objectively unrealistic goal. If you set one that can’t be done, you haven’t put enough thought into it. You need realistic timetables, steps, and destinations.

What You Can Do About It

  • Tell someone you trust and see what they say
  • See point one about making a plan. Creating a plan should help reign in your expectations.
  • Ask yourself if this is what you’d like or if this is something you think you can actually achieve
  • Don’t lose the desire. Take the passion and be smarter about it.

5. You’re High Off the Motivation of Others

This isn’t to say you don’t totally have a goal, but you have no drive, no passion for it. It’s fun to share in the camaraderie of facing a challenge, but it’s different to actually do it.

You have people in your life talking about their goals, and it gets you thinking hey, everyone else is setting goals – I should too. Then along comes February, March, and April, and your friends fall off the wagon of their goals. Inevitably, you do too now that the motivated energy isn’t getting to you.

You ideally have a network of people who are motivated, but they should be a reflection of your own fire. You should be passionate when you’re standing alone and even more passionate when you’re around like-minded people.

If you’re not actually into your goal, it’s not going to happen. You have to be passionate and want it. Success and accomplishment aren’t a bandwagon you can hop on.

What You Can Do About It

  • You have no obligation to have a New Year’s Resolution, so don’t feel like you have to
  • Meditate on the goal and ask if it feels right
  • Figure out goals you’re passionate about

6. You Have No Time Management

You have time for what you care about. If you don’t have time, you don’t care. Not everything is black and white, but I feel the rule generally holds. This isn’t to disregard the other necessities of life, but you will make adjustments to your day to do what you want.

Your goal has to be a priority for you to accomplish it. Otherwise, everything else will always take first place. Time management can be a tricky beast, but you have to get a grip on your time and sort what’s important to you if you want to follow through with your goal.

What You Can Do About It

7. Your Goal is Too Vague

The biggest mistake people make when they set goals or settle on a resolution is they pick one that is abstract or vague. This makes it difficult to measure your success. Your goals should be as specific as possible.

You don’t want to lose weight – you want to lose 20 pounds by July.

You don’t want to be more generous – you want to modify your budget to donate to a charity regularly or rework your schedule so you can volunteer with a local organization twice a month.

You don’t want to be more productive – you want to stick to your to-do list each day and create a weekly chore list.

You don’t want to eat healthier – you want to prepare meals at home three times a week using fresh, colorful ingredients instead of buying take out.

You want to take your goal from a concept to an actual idea. It’s only once you have a real goal you can start to make a plan, get your support system, and be excited to make the change.

What You Can Do About It

  • define what you want to accomplish – what, how, and when
  • envision what your life would be like if you accomplished your goal – notice how it makes you feel and chase that feeling
  • start making your plan

In Conclusion

Recognizing potential pitfalls and stumbling blocks is essential to achieving your goals. You have an inkling of what your own weaknesses are, so you’d only be servicing yourself by confronting those issues as you begin your journey.

Your New Year’s resolution is entirely for you – don’t disappoint yourself by not following through. You deserve happiness and abundance. Do yourself a favor and set yourself up for success.

Whatever your goal is, you can do it. Let me know in the comments what you’re going to achieve this year.